Living a dream

Nanaimo resident wants to share her message with single parents struggling to make ends meet.

Vancouver Island University graduate Kyla Hanington has landed a job with the Ministry of Justice a month after graduating. She hopes her story will inspire single parents to pursue an education and follow their dreams.

Vancouver Island University graduate Kyla Hanington has landed a job with the Ministry of Justice a month after graduating. She hopes her story will inspire single parents to pursue an education and follow their dreams.

Never give up hope.

That’s a message Nanaimo resident Kyla Hanington wants to share with single parents struggling to make ends meet.

Seven years ago, she traveled 5,000 kilometres from Maryland to Vancouver Island with two young kids in tow, $300 cash and all her possessions in a green suitcase. She had no job prospects and very little hope for the future.

With sheer determination, Hanington found a way to carve out a better life for herself and children.

Today, just over a month after graduating from Vancouver Island University with a bachelor of arts degree, Hanington landed her ‘dream job’ with the provincial Ministry of Justice as an interviewer at the Justice Access Centre.

“I feel intense gratitude towards the many people and organizations who helped me along the way,” she said. “I just want to say thank you. I want to tell other single parents to never to give up hope. I want to tell them to follow their dreams and remember that no matter how tough your situation is, you can make it better. Just believe in yourself.”

Hanington, who grew up in Canada, ended up living in Maryland after beginning a family with a man whose work took them abroad. She described herself as a typical stay-at-home mom who volunteered, organized play dates and dinner parties. But in 2005 when her relationship turned sour, Hanington had to get out.

She left home in a rental car paid for by a friend and landed with a relative in Indiana. Another friend gave her $700 for train tickets to Canada where she had other family members.

Hanington and her daughters settled in Nanaimo, but life wasn’t easy.

“I was terrified, uncertain, suffering loss. I dealt with the stress by drinking too much,” she said.

Fortunately, Hanington quit drinking and found a job. It didn’t pay well but it was a job.

She was laid off in January 2009 when the company closed during a recession. That’s when Hanington thought about university.

“My fear of failure and sense of being less capable than others almost stopped me trying,” she said. “But I realized I owed my children more than a hand-to-mouth existence. A university education wouldn’t guarantee me a job, but it would certainly increase my chances of getting one. If nothing else, I wanted my daughters to learn to fight for what mattered to them and learn that it is never, ever, too late to change their lives whether they were 15 or 50.”

Hanington spoke to a VIU educational advisor, pushed aside her fears and registered for first-year classes in Canadian history, journalism and education.

“I didn’t start university from a position of strength,” she said. “I’d gone to university before but dropped out, started again, and dropped out. Those failures haunted me. I thought there was something wrong with me that made it impossible for me to finish. The self-belief that I was stupid or lazy haunted me throughout my adult years. I was worried I would drop out again, and worried I’d screw up somehow.”

But after a few successful semesters, Hanington was hooked on learning. She completed her degree (major in history, minor in First Nations studies) in June with distinction.

Hanington’s biggest hurdle to overcome was financial. “Some days I wondered how I could keep going,” she said. “I would lie awake at night, staring at the ceiling.”

But she was awarded a $2,500 Minerva Foundation for B.C. Women award and soon after received a full tuition scholarship from the Macville Charitable Foundation.

“Scholarships are so much more than financial relief,” she said. “They are gifts of hope. They are the reassurance that you are doing the right thing. They are like faint whispers – keep going, keep going.”

She has published several radio documentaries on CBC Radio’s Sunday Edition about her life experiences, and throughout her final year at VIU wrote a blog hoping to inspire others.

For more information on how to donate to VIU student scholarships, please call Susie Caswell at 250-740-6216 or visit www.viu.ca/giving.

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